Love does not come naturally | Avalon Church

Love does not come naturally.

Attraction – sure, that happens easily enough. In fact, when I was a teenager it happened all the time. I could spot a pretty girl a mile away. In fact, I married a pretty girl, don’t you know! But attraction is not love – we just call it love.

Affection – this, too, occurs pretty naturally and relatively often. I care about many folks and have for most of my life. I tend to encourage them with words and give them hugs and help them move their furniture. But truth be known, as I reflect on all those relationships, they were all people that I liked – and were generally easy to like. This is not love either – however, we call it love.

Well, if love is not attraction or lust or affection or friendship or even admiration or empathy, what is it?

Love is a choice – and it doesn’t come naturally like all those other words – otherwise God would not have to command us to love. True love is supernatural. That was the primary point of the last Sunday’s introduction to “The Greatest of These Is Love” series: “You cannot love until you experience God’s love.”

This Sunday Pastor Dale is going to take the next logical step in a message entitled, “Make a Choice to Love.” If we want to love, but love does not come naturally, then we will have to decide to love.

In preparation for our time of study this Sunday, let me encourage you to read the following verses:


  • 1 Corinthians 13:1-3, 13 – why should we choose to love?
  • Matthew 22:36-39 – see, there really are commands to love
  • Galatians 5:6 – love is the real outward sign of the faith you confess
  • Ephesians 5:2 – live a life of love – like Jesus – who sacrificed Himself for love


This has been an exciting week as hundreds of the Avalon Church family is meeting together in Life Groups – I continue to hear enthusiastic reports and thrilling testimonies from even this first week of study. I cannot wait to see what happens as we continue the journey of love.

Pastor Jim

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